Ladies and Gentlemen, Boys and Girls… and Whatever Else Is Out There
The story you are about to read is true… in that it really is my opinion and quest for answers. Yes, that’s right. A quest for answers. I don’t know everything about this particular subject. Nor do I expect this to be the only post on my site about such a thing. I am not writing this (Okay, typing it.) to anger anyone or discriminate. I am writing about this subject as I, a fairly liberal heterosexual male, knows it.
This is about the current popularity of sexuality, gender issues and gender roles. I say current popularity because they’ve always been here in one form or another but until the past 15-20 years it’s been extraordinarily taboo to discuss such things. Thus the waters get muddied with untruths and ignorance because no one is willing or able to ask, if you could even find someone to ask.
Let’s get the easy one out of the way. For the completely oblivious, Gender Roles are not found at those special bakeries. (I want to say something about it just being a homophone but I’m worried they’d think this whole thing is ‘gay’ and stop reading.) The “traditional gender roles” are the man works while woman stays home and watches the house and kids. That isn’t true anymore. If you want to switch that, great! Go right ahead. If you can afford this, many, I realize, can’t and both parents work while the kids… no, I won’t switch subjects. We’ll get to this part later. Men and women can do whatever they want, as far as roles are concerned.
Here’s another easy one. Many people consider heterosexuality to be the norm. Perhaps it is. It is how a vast majority of reproduction in humans occurs. (There is that thing about the simple division of the egg to fertilize it but that I consider more into the genetics area and I’m not touching that without a considerable amount of studying which I’m not going to do right now.) But who’s really to say if homosexual isn’t normal? Or pansexualism? Or omnisexualism? (Is there a difference between pan- and omni-?) Unless it involves raping another individual, in which case hetero- or homo-sexually it is wrong, there isn’t an issue unless it’s being done in public or with a minor.
One of the biggest arguments against homosexuality comes from (gasp) the bible. I am familiar with the main passage used. Leviticus 18:22, the most direct translation of which is: no man shall lay with another man the way he lays with a woman. Okay. Let’s modernize it. No man shall have sex with another man the way he has sex with a woman. Again, not a problem – and that is NOT me being against homosexuality. Follow me on this. For a man to have sex with another man the way he has sex with a woman, one of them is going to have to have a vagina. If one of them has a vagina, it isn’t two men anymore, is it? It’s a man and a woman, which is just fine. Two men doing what they do isn’t really mentioned, now, is it? So, fellas – knock yourselves out on this one. By the way, did you notice how lesbians were left out of the whole thing? Ladies, again, go for it! Even the bible doesn’t say anything against whatever it is you do.
Now to the one that makes little sense to me, the gender swapping issues. As I mentioned, I was born with a penis and have had no interest in having it replaced. Some people feel the need to do so, and, frankly, as far as I’m concerned, that’s up to them. And that can, of course, be flipped with women wanting a penis… installed? If that’s the right term. Frankly, I think the only person that should be concerned about this would be the person having a current and active sex life with the person wanting to change. Family, religion, work, friends – none of that matters if that’s something you want and/or to have done. Why the senate is involved is beyond me. The last thing I want to think about in regards to my own genitalia is Mitch McConnell. What the problem is, I don’t know or understand.
Actually, there is one thing that makes very little sense about this to me that I would like responses to. If you are, for example, born a man but feel like you are or should have always been a woman and have that surgery done, why do so many people who do this seem to insist on being called a trans-gendered person? In this case, you were a man, now you’re a woman. Why add that extra little bit to make the people who don’t understand your transformation uncomfortable? Just say you’re a woman and let it go. It’s that extra little bit that seems to start the argument. Should you be proud of what you’ve done? Sure. I’m not sure you need to rub it in someone’s face, though. I mean, telling you new sex partner at some point might be a prudent or even polite thing to do, but announcing it just to announce it seems… off, somehow.
Then there’s what I consider the newest part of all of this: identification. People who, again, for example, are male but say they identify as female and therefore cross-dress and use the opposite gender’s restrooms. Cross-dressing? Go for it! I don’t see the issue. Using the other gender’s restrooms, I can see where that would make people uncomfortable. It’s your issue and you can do what you want with your issue, until it involves someone else, then it becomes other people’s issues. Does that make sense? I mean, if you can get away with it, go right ahead. I just wouldn’t announce it.
Then there’s the ‘new genders’ that I also do not understand. When I was growing up, there were four genders – granted two of them were rather rare. Male, Female, Eunuch (neither) and Hermaphrodite (both). Am I using the politically correct terms for that, probably not, but you understand what I’m getting at here. I’m wondering where these new genders came from. Genderfluid I get – today I’m one and tomorrow the other. Multi/Polygender – unisex clothing, I suspect, becomes very popular with this crowd. Novigender – apparently that means hard to assign in a single term. I honestly do not know what that means. Necron, Nurgle, Third-gender, Neutrois and Slannesh are some I’m not even sure are real, much less do I understand them. To each their own, I suppose.
There is one of these new genders I do have an issue with, though. I have a great deal of difficulty believing that someone thinks that they are, sexually, an attack helicopter, or helisexual. No. I’m good with everything in here so far but this one. Just no. I am not heliphobic. I was just brought up with the idea that believing you are a vehicle of any nature was an imaginary plaything and continuing to believe you are a helicopter over the age of, let’s say, eight, you are probably in need of some kind of psychological care.
Having just dismissed a possibly fictional gender, I would like to point out that there are many people in “positions of authority” who have issues with all of what I’ve written. Just as an example, Minister McKrae Game, who ran an anti-gay ministry in South Carolina, just came out as gay himself. (Pot, this is kettle.) Or how about Oklahoma State Senator Ralph Shortey? He was very against trans-people in public restrooms, because the obviously don’t need to pee… I guess. He spoke out loudly and proudly against the LGBTQ… A… E… J… (Okay, here’s my other issue. Finalize the acronym so I can commit it to memory and be done.) Shortey was then arrested in a public restroom having sex with an under-aged boy. This making him the senator who cried ‘gay’! While we’re here I would like to point out that the act Shortey was arrested for has not been repeated by anyone in the LGBTQRSPCA. Although, now that I think about it, I’m wondering why more senators aren’t trying to recruit Helisexual people as replacement parts for the military. If nothing else, it would save a little money, right?