This one might get a little controversial, but I have a question. This is not a blame thing. This is not a homophobic thing. This is not a transphobic thing. It’s a question that I don’t know the answer to.
Let me get this out of the way before I get to the question. For those of you who haven’t met me, or read any of the other posts on here, the only problem I might have with homosexuality would be if someone tried to rape me. If you want to be gay, knock yourself out. What business is it of mine? Equally, if you want to do the trans thing, which, I’m pretty sure, is not the way to phrase it, go right ahead. Again, not my business… nor, really, is it anyone else’s other than your own and, possibly, your mate. By mate, I don’t mean “good friend,” I mean don’t come home from work and say “Honey, you’ll never guess what I did at work today!” I would hope that you’d talk to them first. I would also like to point out that I am a professional smart ass and that previous bit should be taken with the humor with which it is intended.
Now to the question.
If you happen to be trans-whatever, what is the purpose of telling people you used to be something other than what you are now? I DO NOT mean that you should be ashamed by it. Be proud. Be happy. It is nothing that I will understand myself (born with a penis and have no problems with it) but if that’s what you want to do, it’s your life, go right ahead. Like I could stop you even if I wanted to… which I don’t.
The reason I’m asking is, all that would seem to do is upset transphobic people. I mean, if you’re dating someone new, you might want to let them know if you think that’s important. Or don’t. That’s up to you. I just don’t really understand that if you were born, as an example, female, and you want to be male, so you have a penis installed, which is not the correct term but I am still a smart ass and it makes me giggle a bit, you have successfully traversed the gender line. You were woman; you are now man. Why bring up what you used to be at all?
If it comes up in conversation, I get it. If you’re seeing a new doctor, you might want to say something. But introducing yourself as “Hi, I’m Steve. I was born Stephanie, though.” That might set some people on edge. I’m NOT saying that you should HIDE it. But, at the same time, what would be the point in advertising it? If its not their business, nor will it be in the foreseeable future, why tell them?
I also realize that not all trans-people do this, but there are some and this is who that is addressing. It’s a simple question and a good answer might be able to stop some of the hate that is associated with this topic. I’m just trying, in my own way, to find a solution to some of the hate going on. Every little removed helps. Now if I could find a solution to customer service hate…
I’ve done all I can with the skin color issue before. Read some of the previous posts. #BlackLivesMoreThanMatter